How to Seduce a Man -- And How To Attract a Man

How to Seduce a Man:
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Now imagine what it would be like to know that you could get any man you wanted!

Imagine walking into a room or down the street, knowing that you look sophisticated, confident, and self-assured...and that men everywhere are gazing at you in admiration, longing to have even just a minute of your time!

No matter how old you are, whether you've been married before, or what you look like, this information applies to you. In virtually all cases, the results of my information will astound you!

You're going to save time, money, and stress by learning techniques that won't just help you attract attention but that will get guys to fall in love with you for long-term commitment and marriage.

You'll learn to avoid the mistakes and disastrous situations that you've been vulnerable to!

If you settle for an unhappy love life or no love life at all, you'll put yourself at a higher risk of depression, stress-related illness, and even financial strain.

(Check out the National Marriage Project for the very real benefits of marriage!)

But it doesn't have to be that way!

If you want to learn what it really takes to transform your success with men right now, using the most comprehensive and most effective methods that exist - then you have to read everything I'm going to share with you. It's that important.

My unique strategies will teach you:

How to get guys to feel an irresistible, gut-level attraction for YOU

How to overcome your shyness and start flirting with confidence!

Specific behavior patterns and techniques that will increase your personal beauty almost immediately

Comprehensive information on every aspect of attracting men, from where to meet them, conversation, dating, and how to build a satisfying and fulfilling relationship!

And much, much more, read on...

The best part about this information is that anyone can do it (no lists to memorize, no canned techniques) and it starts to work almost instantly!

You can't afford to waste another minute listening to ineffective advice that well-meaning friends and family may be giving you.

Why do you think that so many women are having such a hard time finding love?

It's because all the methods and tricks that you (and all your female friends) have been hearing about don't actually work to attract high-quality men and will actually INHIBIT your ability to attract and seduce the kind of man you've always dreamed of.

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What men want in a woman

Are you the Type of Woman that Men Desire?

Figuring out what men really desire is never easy, since men come in different variations. However, regardless of what category a man falls in, there are standard things that every man is looking for in a woman. Are you the type of woman that men dream about being with? We all want to be an object of desire- the kind of woman that men talk about, dream about and long to be with. We all want to be chased and admired by men and to be appreciated, respected and admired for our existence, appearance, personality and accomplishments.


So what do men really desire in a woman and are you that woman? Well, the first and most important thing to remember is to:

Be Real- be who you really are, rather than try to be what you think you should be or who you think people want you to be. It is easy to sense a real person from an artificial one and one of the main turn offs for a man is a woman who is not herself and gives off a fake vibe.


Have Confidence: Nothing is more attractive to a man than a woman who is confident and feels comfortable and happy in her skin. A woman who feels good about herself is a woman most likely with a good head on her shoulders, rational, focused and has good direction in life. If a woman does not have confidence in herself, then a man feels and sees no reason to have confidence in either and he will not want to invest his time and effort in a woman he will have to baby sit emotionally all the time.


Dress Fashionably: Wearing the most expensive apparel is not the most important thing to a man, but it is important that a woman keep up with her appearances. A woman who dresses sharply comes off as a woman who is successful and who treats herself with love and respect and therefore a man will not want to do less for her either- he will love and respect you too. So be sure to keep yourself updated with fashion and keep yourself well groomed. This will not only draw men to you, but you will also feel good about yourself- which is the first priority before you please anyone else! And remember, dress sexy, but classy as well- and always leave something to the imagination.



Express Intellect- Being desirable to a man is not just about having a pretty face or shapely figure. A woman with intelligence is important to and a man wants to be with a woman who will have something to talk about and who will teach him new things, just as he will teach you new things. Everyone is unique and has their own personal talents and areas of higher intelligence than others- so be sure to express that side of yourself to prove that you do have the whole package- an attractive appearance along with other intellectual surprises. Share your hobbies, share things you have learned through your life experiences and show what he has been missing out on before he met you!


Be Sweet and Feminine- Okay, today women are more independent and career oriented, but that does not mean we should have to give up and forget our feminine roots. Women are delicate creatures after all- we are sweet and giving and it is important for a man to see these qualities in a woman. It is not weak to show a man that you are sweet and care taking- after all, this is the type of woman a man dreams coming home to- someone who will lovingly welcome him home with a sweet feminine smile and take care of him. Never lose your special feminine roots- show him your sweet and romantic side.


Tell him what you want- It is understandable that you want a man who will treat you beautifully without you having to give him directions- and you should never lower your standards when it comes to this. However, you also have to remember that men cannot read minds and let’s face- we women are emotionally unpredictable creatures and are not always easy to read. Men love it when a woman has the strength and confidence to tell him what she wants. Men want to please women, sp do not be afraid to open up and let him know what it is important to you.


Stay Glamorous- This does not mean that you should walk on eggshells and worry about your looks all the time. You should feel secure enough in your relationship to know that even when you are not made up, your man will still adore you and will not look at other women. However, this does not mean you should let yourself go and not care about the things that were once important to you. Relationship usually start going downhill when one or both partners stop caring about the little things, such as dressing up for each other, little romantic gestures and so on. So, remember the little things and always keep your self-confidence in tune by taking care of yourself- and your partner will automatically keep admiring you!


Like Your Body- Men love a woman who loves her body. A woman who walks around feeling good about her body and knowing that her body is beautiful is incredibly sexy to a man and make him curious and eager to get to know that woman. So be sure to build your physical confidence and focus on bringing out your best features. Nobody is prefect- everyone has flaws, but that does not mean that you should advertise your flaws.

Get to know yourself and find your strong physical points and bring them out for the world to see and admire. If there are parts of your body that you believe could use some help, then do something about rather than complain.

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What men want from a woman

Actually, it's pretty simple. Deep inside the heart of every man is a secret wish to be trusted. How many times have men said to their wives, "If you would just trust me." Many men wonder why it seems so difficult for their wives to do something so seemingly simple. The answer stems from the physiological differences between the sexes.

It begins at birth when little boys are given a distinct physical advantage over little girls by having higher levels of testosterone. With testosterone comes the physical strength to both defend themselves from danger and/or run away from a threat. Most little girls don't have that ability. They don't have the strength to defend themselves in a physically fight when they feel threatened. If a boy trusts someone who in turn hurts them, they can always defend themselves physically (or try to). Little girls don't have that physical option of power. Since a person can only trust from a position of strength, those same little girls will grow up into women who naturally have a more difficult time "trusting" when they feel vulnerable.

So men, when you ask the woman of your choice to simply "trust you," it's not that she can't, she's just more vulnerable than you. If you want her to trust you, she needs something that will help develop that trust.

Perhaps even a tool or gesture that she can "count on " until that trust with you is established. Thankfully this tool already exist and is known every woman. What cultivates trust in a woman is a man who consistently keeps his word. Making a promise is meaningless if there is no follow through.

A woman needs to SEE her man fulfill his promises because seeing is always more powerful than hearing. Allow me to illustrate. Imagine someone told you that I was the meanest person they had ever met. For months all you heard was how terrible I treated my family and friends. Then one day you met me and during the course of our meeting you begin to notice that I didn't seem to be as horrible as you were led to believe. I actually appeared to be rather pleasant.

Would you change your entire opinion about me from one visit? Probably not!

However, if you saw me respond consistently with kindness and humility over a period of weeks, your opinion of me would begin to change. A paradox has just been established. The kindness you have seen in me for the last few weeks does not match what you have heard about me.

All the rumors of how mean I am begin to fade into darkness because of my consistent actions. Over time what you see will replace most if not all of your concerns about my character.

Men, when the woman you love sees your words lining up with your actions, trust will naturally follow. When you don't keep your word it causes your wife/girlfriend to become fearful. From her perspective, she has entrusted you with her Heart and WANTS to trust you. She simply needs your help in giving you what you want.



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Bob Grant, L.P.C. is widely recognized as a leading expert on relationships. As a professional Coach for over 14 years, he has helped hundreds of clients in goal achievement. In addition to his hit book, "The Woman Men Adore… And Never Want To Leave." Bob has also been a frequent quest on the radio program, "Marriage and Family Today," in Atlanta, Ga.

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What Men Wish Women Knew

1. Men are more sensitive than realize.

Most women don't believe me when I tell them this.

Men statistically have a harder time coping with a breakup than do women.

They are not biologically designed to have the capacity of processing through feelings like women. Because of this men have a hard shell around their heart that keeps them from getting hurt. They only open up that shell WHEN IT FEELS SAFE.

Not when a woman is demanding for them to “Open Up.”

A man feels safe when he thinks a woman understands him.

They don't have to agree with them (even though that is nice), but they need to convey that they have considered his opinion. What often happens is many women want a man to open up and when he begins talking, they take over.

Soon the conversation is focused on the woman and the man simply quits talking.

In his mind, “What's the point?” Remember ladies, you are probably better at communication than most men. Because of this most men don't want to feel they are competing with you to talk. Help them out by listening and in time they will seek you out more.

2. How you think about yourself makes more of an impression on men than having a perfect body.

Men don't obsess about a woman's body has much has women think.

I know you think I'm wrong but I'm not. Men certainly are more visual than women but what men notice about a woman is primarily her ability to be at ease around men.

If she seems to like herself, men will have a much more favorable view of her.

I have known women who were stunning to look at but once they opened their mouth and words came out, all desire for her evaporated. Most men are like this.

One of the best ways to act confident is to ask questions. They don't have to be the funniest or clever, but simply show an interest in him (this works for wives has well). Someone who is pressing in to get to know us will always seem more attractive.

Every man would tell you that they want to date/marry someone who is stunning.

Yet many men tell me that they dated someone whom they did not initially think was their “type” but after they got to know them they couldn't imagine being with someone else.

A woman who feels she is a good catch will have come across has relaxed. That quality is what men long to marry.

3. Men respond to a woman's invitation.

John Gray pointed this out well in his famous book, “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus,” that women send the signals and men respond to them.

Yes, sending a signal is who a woman gives the man a “go” signal. Men need some indication that a woman will say yes before approaching her.

This is often not the case in bars where guys go up to women whether there is a “you may approach me” signal and they have terrible results. Their hit to miss ratio is horrible. Women send signals whether they realize it or not, yet many women fear they will come across has “pushy,” or “easy.”

Here is an “easy” way to let a guy know you are interested without walking up to him. It comes for the book, “Getting to I Do,” by Dr. Patricia Allen. It is called the 5 second stare. If you see someone you are interested in, look at him and simply stare at him for a FULL five seconds. Remember to smile when you do this.

I promise he will get the message. The rest is up to him but you will definitely have let him know that it is safe to proceed.

Copyright by Bob Grant, L.P.C. 2004 All rights reserved.

You Can Heal Your Life

If you haven't seen Hay House's Lifestyles series of gorgeous gift books, there is no better way to acquaint yourself than with publisher/author Louise Hay's You Can Heal Your Life.

A bestseller for many years, You Can Heal Your Life has been republished with bright, beautiful illustrations in full, living color and exquisite typography--each and every page is a work of art by artist Joan Perrin Falquet.

The timeless message of the book is that we are each responsible for our own reality and "dis-ease." Hay believes we make ourselves ill by having thoughts of self-hatred.

She includes a directory of ailments and emotional causes for each with a corresponding affirmation to help overcome the illness.

For example, the probable cause of multiple sclerosis is "mental hardness, hard-heartedness, iron will, and inflexibility." The healing "thought pattern" would be: "By choosing loving, joyous thoughts, I created a loving joyous world.

I am safe and free." --P. Randall Cohan

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Sign of a Cheating Husband

Your spouse seems bored. Bored with you, with job, with kids, with hobbies, with life in general.

Your spouse seems to want danger or thrills in his/her life.

There is considerably less intimacy in your relationship. Your sex life is practically non-existent.

Your spouse has a low self-esteem.

You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about self.

You spouse has become lazy, especially around the house.

You can't get your spouse to communicate with you.

Your spouse gets very defensive if you mention infidelity or affairs.

Your spouse is suddenly more attentive than usual.

Your mate is working longer hours at work.

Your spouse is dressing nicer, looking nicer.

You notice charges on credit card statement that don't make sense.

Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.

You find your partner has been lying to you about a variety of things.

Money becomes more of an issue between the two of you.

He/she doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything with you anymore.

You can't even get your mate to fight with you.

You feel as if you are being avoided.

Your partner abandons religious faith.

Your spouse seems more secretive.

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WAYS TO ATTRACT MEN
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Turn on your TV.

You will quickly determine that you don't have what it takes to attract (and keep!) a man. You're too thick in the waist. You need a boob job. Your legs are covered in revolting cottage cheese that must be eradicated by all means possible. You're not girly enough. You're too girly. You don't talk enough. You talk too much.

Those pathetic lines around your eyes date you like a day-old roast beef.

Turn off your TV.

The truth of the matter is that men, the desirable ones, don't care all that much about what you look like. They don't care if you're shy, or if you occasionally ramble on about nothing. Instead, they tend to gravitate toward women who possess a valuable, seemingly elusive, quality:

Happiness.

Oh, yes. Happy women attract men, small children, dogs, and guinea pigs like magnets. What man in his right mind wouldn't want to be around a happy woman?
Think I'm being silly? I'm not, and I'll prove it to you.

Like a lot of people, my weight used to fluctuate (although not so much anymore, thanks to regular dates with a NordicTrack). At one point I was 30 pounds heavier than I am today, and some friends had invited me out for dinner and drinks.

I certainly didn't relish the idea of being the fat chick at the bar, but I agreed to go. While trying on 3,000 outfits in an attempt to find something that made me look thin, I had an epiphany: I wasn't going to lose 30 pounds in two hours.

My best bet was to forget about feeling fat and put a smile on my face. I set a goal to focus on whomever spoke to me, to look him or her in the eye, and to forget about myself.

Before I left the house, I brought to mind all the things I had going for me. Once I was out, I smiled sincerely at people and made a point of putting them at ease.
The result? One very attractive guy (whom I previously considered completely out of my league) asked me out that night, starting a fun and memorable summer romance.

After we'd broken up a few months later, I woke up with the symptoms of some sort of food allergy. I'd lost 25 pounds, but that didn't change the fact that my eyelids bulged like footballs. My jawline had virtually disappeared. Some evil food product (my bet is on bacon bits; they're not real bacon, you know!) had transformed me into a monster.

I had plans to attend a party that evening, so I immediately turned to the teabag-on-the-eyelid therapy touted by the beauty mags. It failed. I tried cucumber slices next. They also failed. I tried ice packs, frozen spoons, frozen peas. They failed. I tried drinking loads of lemon water and following it up with a pot of detoxifying herbal tea. No luck with that, either.

Clearly, looking my best was not in the cards. After spending the afternoon in the bathroom ridding myself of lemon water and tea, I set out for the party looking like Jabba the Hut from the neck up.

But, once again, I'd made a decision. Sure, I'd be the most physically repellent creature in the room, but why get bummed out about it? Wearing a little brown eye shadow to play down the lid bulge and a confident smile, I hit the party.

All night I banished the nagging temptation to head to the bathroom to poke at my swollen face. Instead, I listened to other peoples' stories. I laughed at their jokes (if they were funny, that is). I achieved my goal of having a great time.
Guess who scored a date with a good-looking, very funny guy?

If you want to attract guys, forget about what's wrong about you. Forget about what's wrong about your job, your boss, and your mother. Cultivate happiness.

You'll find yourself attracting better friends, better men, and better circumstances.
Next time you're on your way out of the house and feeling like no man in the world would ever be interested in you, think about things that make you laugh. Bring to mind times in your life when you were truly happy.

Then put a smile on your face and walk out that door!
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Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams." Sign up for her free dating newsletter at http://www.marrysmart.com

Saving a Marriage

How I Improved My Marriage
Ten-Fold In One Evening

By Beth Young, Senior Editor of MarriageAdvice.com

It seems unlikely that anyone could improve his or her marriage in one evening.

Well this article on saving a marriage can help! Any positive step in the right direction is an improvement that will continue as long as the efforts continue to be made.

As our recent MarriageAdvice.com poll showed, more than 40% of our 207 respondents identified that the single biggest frustration in their marriage was that their husbands "Didn't Communicate Enough".

Below is a 8-step process to insure that both partners are communicating well.
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Step #1 - Decide To Communicate __________________________________

There are really only two options when it comes to communicating...either you do it or your don't. It's better to try and communicate and fumble around a bit than ignore the problem until it explodes like a pent up volcano.

The wise spouse will work to resolve and discuss their feelings before the lava of scalding words overflows.

Part of deciding to communicate will include setting aside a time each week to discuss family needs and concerns. This would also be a good time to resolve any minor conflicts that have arisen during the week but weren't fully taken care of previously. _______________________________

Step #2 - Choose A Good Time
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If a more heated conflict occurs, it's important to find the right time to discuss the matter. Waiting for your scheduled night for communicating would not be the best idea; however, taking a little time to give both partners time to cool off is important as well.

Working to resolve a big conflict should wait until a time when both parties are not wrung out, angry, tire, or hungry. Your physical state directly impacts your mental state and your ability to work through problems in a rational manner.

Additionally, as we allow ourselves time to calm down, we are better able to carefully think about what is really bothering us besides this specific event. In many cases, the topic of the current disagreement may not be the real problem.

As we take time to ponder and look for the root of the problem, we are better able to expand our vision to the whole picture and not just have tunnel vision of the current problem at hand. Keep in mind, it may just be we've had a bad day and this problem was the last straw.

It's much easier to resolve a problem when we have a better perspective of what is really going on inside of our head and heart. _______________________________

Step #3 - Neutralize Defenses
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Before you have a deep discussion on something that is bothering you, consider two things. First, your spouse will be more receptive to the discussion if you reinforce your love, and express appreciation and confidence in their many attributes.

Second, you choose if you will be irritated or angry, so you need to express yourself in a away that acknowledges your responsibility for your feelings. "You make me so mad!" Really is a false statement because you have allowed yourself to become mad.

However, if you said, "When you make fun of me in front of our friends, it embarrasses me and I feel angry and frustrated," you would be giving a very accurate statement about what has happened to you. Invite your spouse to help you solve this problem you are having, then they become part of the solution, not the problem.
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Step #4 - Use Humor
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Like they say, "laughter is the best medicine". It's true, physiologically, it relieves stress, and mentally it gives you a time out to relax. You will find that the longer you have been married, the more you have to laugh about.

Many things that were painful or frustrating at the time can be viewed with great humor years later.

Creating code words from some of these humorous events will help relieve tensions when a similar event threatens to evolve.

When either my husband or I say something that is insensitive to the work effort done by the other, all we have to say is "I hate kidney beans", and the other one immediately realizes their actions are bordering on being insensitive.

It's an easy way to control tense situations, prevent them from escalating and elicit a sincere, "I'm Sorry."

A word of caution, be sensitive to the situation. There are times when humor is neither appropriate or too late in coming and will be viewed as sarcasm. Sarcasm has no place in true efforts to communicate. ____________________

Step #5 - Be Fair
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Be careful when discussing sensitive issues and don't fall into touchy subjects that you know will enflame the argument.

Looking for fair solutions may require compromising or acquiescing. Remember, you both need to give, sometimes a little, sometimes a lot, to resolve conflicts.
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Step #6 - Finding a Peaceful Stalemate _________________________________________

There are times when you need to just agree to disagree. You don't always have to agree 100% with your spouse, so there are occasions when a peaceful stalemate would be appropriate. It is only a legitimate solution as long as it isn't just putting off the blow up for another time.

A peaceful stalemate results in open discussion about your differences, why neither of you feel you can change at this time, and acceptance of each others differences.
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Step #7 - Willingness to Change ___________________________________

When we truly feel loved, it gives us the freedom to risk changing and growing into a new and improved version of our old self.

As we nurture our marriage relationship, the love and acceptance we feel will be liberating as we make minor and sometimes major changes in whom we are.

Marriage is a wonderful opportunity to practice charity towards our spouse and provide a safe relationship where growth can occur. _______________________________

Step #8 - Bolster Each Other
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No matter what solution you have arrived at, it's important to always express love and confidence in each other after a disagreement. As we show this love in days to come, it will be clear that no one is harboring ill feelings about the disagreement and that it was truly resolved.

When both partners feel loved and supported in their relationship after a disagreement, it's easier to resolve future problems with love and respect.

By applying these eight communication steps, you have now discovered how you can change your marriage in one evening. It will take practice, but with time, you will find that your marriage has improved more than ten-fold.

Beth Young is the Senior Editor of the leading marriage advice web site, www.MarriageAdvice.com. For more articles related to strengthening your marriage and family, go to http://www.marriageadvice.com. MarriageAdvise.Com is a web site dedicated to a community of husbands and wives who are working to create happy marriages that last a lifetime.

How to make a woman orgasm
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I know you're looking for guaranteed methods that will make any woman you decide to woo orgasm, but that's not going to happen because all women are different and need different stimulation in order to get off.

Now don't let your ego cloud your brain; if she doesn't reach orgasm, that doesn't mean you're a horrible lover.

It just means that you might have to try different methods to get to the big O.

Fingers and tongue

Get your head down to the area she loves having your mouth at, and start your tongue tricks. Lick around the entire scope of the vagina from the clitoris down to her perineum. When she's wet all over, insert two fingers into her vagina -- palm facing up -- and make a "come hither" motion. At the same time, stimulate her clitoris with your tongue. This way, you're stimulating both her clitoris and her G-spot.

If she begins to moan and groan, keep the same pace, don't go faster.

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Make Him Want You

An Open Letter To A Woman Who Wants To ATTRACT And KEEP Mr. Right...

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You CAN learn how to understand men and get them to be open up and understand you. You can learn how to CATCH that great guy, and how to KEEP him.

Here's what I discovered:

The 3 Deadly Mistakes Women Make With Men Without EVER Realizing It...

Through my research and personal experience, I've found that these 3 mistakes are responsible for more failed dates and relationships with men than any other factors. Here they are:

» Mistake #1: Leading A Man To Think You Are "Needy" And "Insecure"

Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man's "Insecurity Alert" and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you?

Sadly, even confident women often "accidentally" give off one of these signs... and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date.

As you read through these signals men pick up on as "needy" and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes:

Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends. Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you.


Speaking negatively about other women.

When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you.

Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good.

Too much physical contact, especially in public.

If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he'll start to see it as clingy behavior... but you'll never hear about this from him.

It's far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him.

love making technique

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Try these at home!

These exercises use techniques employed by psychosexual therapists to help people get the most from their sex life. Some are to be done on your own and some with a partner - and the idea is to have fun!

Blind taste

Blindfolds and food have always had their places in sexual games, and they're a great way to bring fun and eroticism into the bedroom. Blind tastings build intimacy between you and your parnter, according to psychosexual therapist Paula Hall.

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Sign Of Cheating


1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a
vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know
about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife
or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and
returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

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Top 10 Wedding Anniversary Mistakes Women Make

1.Getting married on Valentine’s Day

2.Hinting too much, making the man feel obligated.

3.Don’t go to any efforts to help plan a romantic day.

4.Expect men to read their minds on what they’d like to receive and do.

5.Think that all a man wants is sex.

6.Don’t reciprocate with a romantic gift.

7.Not preparing mentally for a romantic day.

8.Expect too much.

9.Don’t show appreciation for the man’s efforts.

10.Expect Romeo when you have acted like Roseanne all year!

By Stacey L. Bradford Published: August 17, 2005

Here are five common financial mistakes married women make — along with some advice on how to avoid them.

1. Mistake: Handing Over the Purse Strings
"Ignorance is not bliss," says Patricia Powell, a CFP based in Martinsville, N.J. By not engaging in the family finances, women set themselves up for potential hardships. Powell says she has worked with at least two clients who managed their finances perfectly well while they were single, only to file for bankruptcy after they got married because of their husbands' premarital debt and extravagant spending habits.

Solution: Pay Attention to the Household Finances
Both partners should attend the meetings with insurance agents, accountants, financial planners and lawyers, says Watchung, N.J.-based Kaye. Women should also look over monthly bank statements and credit-card bills. And Kaye recommends that couples make a list of all bank and brokerage accounts and insurance policies and keep it with other important documents, such as wills and medical directives.

2. Mistake: Losing Your (Financial) Identity

When Elizabeth Lundin (who asked that we not use her real name), now 33 years old, got married six years ago, her husband offered to take over the couple's finances. She happily agreed. The couple merged all of their bank accounts, and Lundin even gave up her individual American Express card and started using a shared credit card.

Two years later, when the couple decided to divorce, Lundin learned that the couple's credit card was actually held in her husband's name, and that she was simply an authorized user. Her name was taken off that account, and she let many months go by before trying to secure credit in her name. When she tried, she found that her lack of an active credit history worked against her. She was offered only high-rate cards with small lines of credit.

According to Craig Watts, spokesman for Fair Isaac, the company that helps generate consumer FICO scores (the most common credit score used), the credit bureaus won't calculate a score for an individual whose credit history has been inactive for six months or longer.

"[Recent] college graduates had an easier time securing credit than I did," Lundin says. She says it took her two years to get a card with a competitive interest rate and sizable credit line.

Solution: Maintain Some Individual Accounts
"You always want to maintain your own credit identity," says Lisa Caputo, president and CEO of Women & Co., a division of Citigroup. She recommends that couples keep three bank accounts (his, hers and ours) and maintain separate credit cards.

3. Mistake: Walking Away From Your Career
The number of stay-at-home moms has increased by 15% over the past decade, according to 2003 U.S. Census data. While you might welcome the chance to stay home with your kids, the longer you're out of the work force, the harder it can be to jump back in. Women often face lowball wages or lower job titles when they try to return to work after a long hiatus.

Solution: Keep Your Skills Fresh
It might be hard to do when you're up to your eyeballs in dirty diapers, but unless you're independently wealthy, you should always be aware that you might someday return to the work force for one reason or another. (Kids, after all, do grow up.)
So don't lose touch completely. Try to take on consulting projects during your industry's busy season and attend professional networking events.

Even charity work can give you a leg up when you start applying for a new job.

4. Mistake: Not Saving for Retirement

Many married women don't make retirement-saving a priority. If the husband is the primary wage earner, the wife often trusts her spouse to save enough for their collective golden years, says Ginita Wall, a certified financial planner and co-founder of Women's Institute for Financial Education, a San Diego-based nonprofit dedicated to educating women on finances. Compounding the problem, women are more likely than men to blow what little savings they have on something other than retirement. Nearly 25% of women who take a lump sum distribution from a retirement plan spend the money on general consumption, vs. 19% of men, according to the Employment Benefit Research Institute.

A woman spending her retirement savings is particularly distressing considering that women, on average, live six years longer than men.

Solution: Penny-Pinch Now for Your Future

Make saving for retirement a priority, says Women & Co.'s Caputo, even if it means stashing away less for your children's college education. If you're working, save as much as you can in your company's retirement plan, or in an IRA. If you're not employed, contribute to a spousal IRA, which has an annual contribution cap of $4,000 in 2005. Click here for more on these accounts.

5. Mistake: Asking for the House During a Divorce

When Borden separated from her husband, she decided her priority was to get custody of her two children. So she hired the best child custody lawyer she could find. Looking back, she says she now regrets her decision to focus on just one issue and wishes she had found a lawyer who had also looked out for her financial well-being. While she succeeded in getting custody of the kids, she is now struggling on the meager child-support payments her lawyer negotiated for her.

Borden's story isn't unusual. Women often focus so intently on winning custody of the children or keeping the house that they lose sight of the bigger financial picture, says Wife.org's Wall. On average, a woman's standard of living decreases by 27% after divorce, according to Richard Peterson, of the Social Science Research Council.

Solution: Get Financial Guidance

When women are going through a divorce, they need to determine which assets will help them pay their bills and reach their long-term goals. Some women might want to consult a financial planner, says Wife.org's Wall. Too many women, says Wall, fight for the home to avoid uprooting their children, only to find that they don't have the cash flow to pay for it.

by sex expert Tracey Cox

Hot - or hopeless? Find out how you rate as a lover and pray you're not guilty of any of these...

1. We don't know enough about sex – or his bits.

'She goes all giggly and girly whenever I try to talk to her about how to touch and excite me. She thinks it's cute but I find it insulting that not only wouldn't she have the first clue about how my penis works, she's got no interest in finding out.'
He's right – you do need to know some basic anatomy. While it's true that what worked with Barry won't necessarily work with Brian, our genitals are all wired up the same way and most of us have the same hot spots. Sex is a bit like typing. We can all sit down in front of a computer keyboard and bash something out using two fingers. But you're never going to be as good as the person who uses 10 and took the touch-typing course. Buy a good sex book and study it. Once you've got the basic biology figured, combine it with 'field research' – touching and testing the areas that are meant to feel good when stimulated – and you're bound to be a better lover than the girl who's stuck at the point-and-giggle-at-his-dangly-bits stage.

2. We expect men to be mind-readers.

'I asked if she'd had an orgasm and she said no. I asked her why and she said 'Because I felt like oral sex and you didn't give me any. If you really loved me, you'd have known that was what I wanted'.

Sorry girls but again, I'm on his side. Expecting your lover to second-guess your every desire is rubbish. Just because someone knows you well and wants to please you, doesn't mean they suddenly have access to a crystal ball. Plenty of women think their lover comes equipped with an amazing radar which allows him to know exactly what she's in the mood for at that exact moment with absolutely no input from her. Well, speak up or forever lie back and think of England.

3. We only seem to like sex at the beginning. Once the relationship is serious, we lose interest.

'It's been the same with every girlfriend I've ever had. They're all over you in the beginning but stop wanting it at all once you've been together for a while.'
Some guys think it means we're just not interested in sex at all. We fake it in the beginning until we've 'got him', then drop the act. I think there's a far less sinister and more logical reason to explain it. Women get bored with sex if it becomes predictable. And if we're bored, it's hard for us to orgasm because we need a lot more mental and physical stimulation than he does to topple us over the edge.

I admit, it's not the healthiest of attitudes but it is understandable. Most people wouldn't dream of sitting down to the same meal every single night of their life yet most couples follow the same routine every single time they have sex. Vary just one thing every time you have sex. It might be a different position. A new room. The lights on or off. You might be dressed, half-dressed or completely naked. Music on, music off. It's easy! It takes little imagination but works wonders.

4. We leave it all up to him.

'Q: What's the difference between making love to your long-term girlfriend and eating a bowl of spaghetti? A: At least the spaghetti moves so you know it's alive.'
Some women think it's not only his job to initiate sex, it's his job to do all the work during it as well. You want to be able to be the boss in the boardroom? Well, take some responsibility in the bedroom as well. It's a cop out to expect him to do everything while you just lie there. Take the lead by seducing him occasionally. You take control during foreplay. You jump on top of him for intercourse, rather than the other way around. If you want to really impress him, initiate sex when he least expects it (anytime except when you're both turning in for the night).

5. We're too paranoid about our bodies to enjoy sex.

'She hates side-by-side sex because it makes her tummy look fat. She won't get on top because she's worried her breasts will look funny. She won't even go to the loo unless I promise not to look at her bottom.'

Most men aren't as fussy about body shape as we think they are. The truth is – and it's been proven over and over again – our idea of a perfect body isn't his. A few extra pounds (which mean the world to us), add the curves that men find really sexy. They don't think 'fat' and 'lumpy'. They think soft, warm, female and voluptuous.

If you're jumping into bed worried about your body, it stands to reason your sex life will suffer. In a US survey, women with a positive body image said they had orgasms 73 percent of the time. Self-conscious women reached orgasm only 42 percent of the time. Sex is all about what's happening inside, not outside. If you're desperately trying to suck your stomach in, you're not mentally tuning into being turned on. Being a good lover is about feeling confident.

Feel sexy and you'll be it!

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